Without treatment, the disease of addiction progresses.
Some Do's and Don'ts of Intervention:
Do
- Act from true concern or love for the addicted person.
- Explain that the addicted person's drinking/drug addiction problems stem from an illness.
- Avoid hatred, hostility, condemnation, lecturing or moralizing. You are there to help.
- Talk about the methods of treatment available for the disease.
- Allow the addicted person to feel the full weight of the consequences of his or her behavior.
- Offer limited choices for the addicted person to consider, such as, to get help to retain a work position and a role in the family, or do nothing and possibly lose a job and live alone.
- Prepare to act upon the addicted person's decision to seek help. Admission arrangements at a treatment facility should be made in advance. Remove the excuses for not acting now by making provisions for transportation, childcare and pet care.
- Prepare to act upon the addicted person's decision not to seek help. The confrontation must not be perceived as a "cry wolf" exercise that will blow over in a few hours.
- Express hope that recovery from alcoholism/drug addiction is possible. Hundreds of thousands of problem drinkers/drug users have already done so.
Don't:
- Grow emotional and hostile about your own hurts. You may document your hurts, but maintain your focus upon the factual effects of the addicted person's behavior.
- Digress into possible reasons why the addicted person drinks/uses drugs or why so often. To seek such explanation is a futile exercise. It is enough to establish and accept the fact that addiction has become a problem.
- Accept further hollow promises from the addicted person, no matter how sincere or tearful. Haven't you been along this road before? The commitment must be to accept immediate treatment.
- Judge. The key here is to document. The events given should show only that there is cause for genuine and deep concern.

